I think that's what Mark and I have been experiencing.
We talked about that this a.m, about how maybe we're starting to see and accept some things that probably aren't going to change, no matter what. Mark has become more valued, but that won't change how things are done. And therein lies the problem. It's a general operating procedure. The only way for that to change is with Heavenly Father's help.
Part of the problem is us.
It's hard for Mark and I to lay responsibility where it belongs; it's always easier to just try harder ourselves. That's a life lesson we are learning: Often, it's not our place to fill in the gaps.
And I'm glad we're learning. You probably think we're rather slow on the uptake, but that's why I mention the stages. 'Cause it takes time.
Meanwhile, he continues his search, perhaps with a new urgency now. If something comes up, we'll pray about that. If not, well, at least he's got someone who values him! :/
4 comments:
Sounds like I need to give you a call! (Not to help or encourage you, just to be nosey!) I hate having to learn these things, but afterwards you can look back and see how much you HAVE learned. It's just the process of acceptance of situations and peoples ideas that is hard to accept. If Doc is working harder on the work search, he needs to call the places here! And in the Columbus area!
I have really been enjoying your daily posts- it's like a little window into your brain. :) Yes, it is so hard sometimes accepting the fact that you can't change other people or circumstances. I have always had a big problem with wanting to control every single thing in my life (I think so I don't feel afraid of things falling apart, and so I don't feel as vulnerable to being disappointrd)); but I'm learning very slowly that life is all about changing and adapting and maybe just accepting some things as difficult. I hope Doc can begin this acceptance and finds a better job, with someone who SHOWS him how valuable he is by PAYING him! :)
It is really hard to learn these lessons! I try to just accept things as they are, but I still feel myself resisting the truth of things. Or always hoping that something will change, when maybe it won't and I need to change. I hope that Doc's search ends in a good result and that he will see the fruits of his labor. And I agree with Haley- usually you show someone that you employ how much you appreciate them by paying them!! Otherwise, they go away!
You posted exactly what I feel like I'm constantly struggling with. I always think "If I could just change this. . then I would be happy." But unfortunately, that is not how Heavenly Father works. We don't have control over what happens to us, only over how we react and move forward. I think he knew that would be the hardest lesson for us to learn, and that's why he's giving us a lifetime to learn it. :)
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