I remember me wanting to put my fingers together like Mr. Smithers and say, "Excellent!" I was in Heaven, marrying the most wonderful guy in the world! That was 19 years ago in the Logan Temple.
I've never changed my opinion about that...Mark is perfect for me.
I think we each have a real appreciation of finding our great, romantic once-in-a-lifetime love that we want to be with Forever.
Carol Matthau wrote about seeing Wuthering Heights over and over again at the theater, and coming out of there so overwhelmed with the desire to have wildly passionate, fiercely loyal, ever-after love like that, or she didn't want love at all. That's the way my parents were, and that's exactly what I wanted and believe in. If I can't have it, I don't want love at all.
That doesn't mean that we don't know each other's weaknesses; we know them, and we love the direction we know the other person is going, and that is all that matters. Tamathy told me that when I asked her, before I married Mark, how you could know that that person wasn't going to change after marriage. She said you just learn what direction they want to go, and then you trust that. Such good advice.
Before you marry, observe the other person in tons of situations and see how they respond. Are they negative, defensive, or critical? Are they supportive of your growth and independence? Is their behavior honorable? Are they good-hearted and kind? Do they have a good work ethic? Do they share your values and dreams? Do they have a sense of humor about themselves? Are they good at communicating? Do they trust you?
Mark is all of that. We giggle together. We talk a bunch. We are affectionate with each other. We help and support each other. We are growing together.
I love how Mark will not hesitate to help someone in need. And he does so much without telling anybody, even me. I'll find out later sometimes, and he's very offhand and quiet about it.
Little kids and babies always love him instinctively. Irelyn follows him around and wants him to do everything with her. He gets restless eventually, and has to get some space, but they don't seem to notice or care. It's not fair, but there you go.
Mark is intelligent and talented and on and on. Put anything good you want to in there. He's even, as you probably know, a fantastic cook!
We've been through a lot together, more than enough for one lifetime. I can't wait to share Eternity with him.
I love you, Mark!
xoxoxo
3 comments:
How sweet! I love that you guys are so in love- yet not in a completely unrealistic weird way, but you stick together through it all. I don't know how you've survived all of the trials you've had in just 19 years (health problems, job losses, kid problems, etc), but you are my heroes. Really! I look up to you and your marriage. You seem like the best of friends. Also, I want to be a wife like you, who is so loving, content, accepting, non-judgmental, happy with life, positive, etc. Thank you for setting such a good example!
I love the advice Tamathy gave you, about remembering the direction they are going and then trusting in that. That is such wonderful advice, and I'm going to remember to do that!
Thanks for writing again! I love reading what you have to say about anything!
Awww, I loved reading all about you and Doc..... and it is crazy that you have been married as long as you have!
Tammy gave you such GREAT advice. Gots to remember that, and people in general too. It would be great to teach our kids to use that as a gauge for choosing friends.
It is so true that kids gravitate to Doc! Why is that?! It's like they all sense that he will feed them good food and show them all the neat things to see. And then you have all the fun toys. Can you imagine going to a grandma's house where the grandma had oodles of toys and would play them with you?! The kids don't know how lucky they are to have you!
I still remember going to grandma and grandpa's house and there being a big trunk with toys in the living room. I specifically remember a train set with animals(?) and that game with the two guys that you make punch each other.
Belated Happy Anniversary, Diane & Mark! You have such a talent for writing, Diane. I, too, love to read what you write. All good questions to ask in choosing a mate. I believe that us women were given the power to tame wild men. lol We are, after all, the superior sex. Men were just a test. Right? Ya, right. lol Never mind. Love ya! P.S. Dennis & I celebrate 31 yrs. this July. Perhaps in 30 more years he'll be perfect. rofl Sorry, I inherited my sarcastic sense of humor from my dad...it's all his fault. ;p
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