Monday, July 15, 2013

The Values We Cherish



As you probably know, Mark has been unemployed for almost a year, and we've lost our Homestead Exemption on our home mortgage, and many of our resources are running dry; right now we're facing a tough row ahead if we don't find work, and pronto!   I say this, not because it's unusual, because of course it isn't, but because we recently found about a way to work things that would save us a lot of money over the next year or so, and it doesn't involve fraud or breaking the law.  It's just morally wrong.

It seems quite morally ambiguous, and even harmless on the surface.  But as I sat thinking about it tonight, I remembered my Dad and how you could call him even stubbornly honest, he was so scrupulous about it.  And he would tell me stories about Abraham Lincoln or William Wallace or someone he knew after he joined the church that he really admired, and I could feel how much those men meant to him, and how much he wanted to be like them - and that meant a lot to me.

Dad also took care of the shopping and transportation or gardening help for many elderly widows, all without anyone else's knowledge.  And if he saw or heard someone in need, he didn't hesitate to help them at all.  He taught us to push cars, shovel snow, carry boxes, and move plants.  Once, he carried an elderly lady's giant white stove up three flights of stairs on his back - he was reallly strong.
No wonder...he worked hard!

Mom was right there by his side, just as honest and just as hard-working.  He used her for his referral source, or you might say, need-finder.  She'd tell him about someone in need and off he'd go, alone or (usually, unless she was unwell, with Mom).  For much of my childhood we kids would wait in the car as she visited with the needy or helped someone who was ill.   

Their whole lives they spent countless hours in service of all kinds.  They believed in basic values like patriotism and raising your children to be good citizens and learning first aid and volunteering.  The things they taught me and that I saw them do have made me who I am.  I am so grateful for that foundation in my life.  I know the roots of that foundation go back generations and generations, and that our children are teaching their children those same values.  They are so precious and important!

As I thought of these things, I didn't even have to pray about what I would do, and I knew Mark would feel the same way, because he'd been raised by the same type of people.  And I also knew that this is the kind of challenge we will face in the future.  Now is the time for us to decide, ahead of time, whether we'll be the ones fighting over the food or sharing with others.  That's what happens when resources get scarce.

Lots of people nowadays think that that kind of thinking belongs in the last century, that you should work all the angles, but I bear you my testimony that we have been taught better than that and a higher standard of behavior is required of us.  We are men and women with compassion and dignity, and we are honest people.  Let's not sell our heritage for a mess of pottage like Esau did.  Let's be "true to the truths that our parents have cherished" in all our dealings, to the best of our ability, no matter what the cost. 

We love you!  Please pray for each other!
xoxoxo

Dear Seth (pictures separate or added later)



Dear Seth,

So many things have been happening and I’ve wanted to tell you about all of them.  I’ve wanted to blog and I haven’t even done that.  Not because I was busy, but because I become overwhelmed with things to tell about.  Anyway we’re missing you and wish you could be here for everything.  How are you doing?  It turned really hot here for a while.  It’s a little better now.  We had my birthday and the girls got me a book by my favorite author, Jeanette Walls, and I got to go fishing at Haley’s’.  Ben and Linda gave me a DVD of Lincoln, and they bought me a cake.

For father’s day, Mark got a tie and a kitchen knife from me.  I don’t remember what he got from other people.

My cousin Bonnie and her husband came to stay for several days, as well as my cousin John Ringer and his wife and a son and his wife.  Megan and Brooks decided suddenly to come to Idaho for the 4th also.  It was really nice where we are now, to have rooms for everyone even if they had to sleep on the floors.  I had a really nice visit with the cousins and we exchanged a lot of memories about my grandmother.  My uncle Gene was John’s father, who died when he was like four.  Bonnie is a big Karaoke fan so we all had to sing Karaoke.  We also went to the Temple grounds and Megan took pictures of each family group. 

Bonnie and her husband had to fly out the afternoon of the 4th and MISSED the fireworks!  However, John and all his family were here for them and he said in his 54 years he’s never seen anything like it, so we were adequately pleased with ourselves.  He said it made the “Stadium of Fire” celebration (Provo) look like a backyard display.

Since the 4th, Megan and Brooks have spent time with his family, at Mel’s, and today they are at Haley’s for the day.

Ben and Linda had to have the baby 2 months early because it wasn’t receiving the nutrition it needed and wasn’t growing. It was 3 lbs., 3 oz.  It will be in the Neo-natal ICU for about 8 weeks, but is doing fine.  Her name is Caitlin Vernice and she has golden blonde hair and looks great – not like a normal premie.


Megan says:

Hello Sethy Woo,

Spank you for the letters.  We’ve wanted to write for a long time.  We like hearing what life is like there.  We spontaneously decided to drive to Idaho and have been having lots of fun here.  We’re staying at Grandpa Doc’s.  We’ve taken the kids to the splash park several times (Rexburg) and the Carousel.  We had Anya’s 5th birthday and today we’re going to visit Haley.

Sabriel is 2 now and talks a lot.  You better learn Spanish while you are in there because Brooks only speaks Spanish to her and she understands everything he says.  It took us 34 hours of driving to get here. 

I saw a picture of a baby that looks just like you but with red hair - now we know what you’d look like if you were a girl.  Anya starts kindergarten this fall, and I’ll be in my second semester of nursing school so we’re going to be very busy.

Bye Bye,
Megan

This is your mother writing again.  I apologize again for the long wait between letters, and I’ll try not to do that again.  I’m exercising, testing more frequently, and counting carbs, so I might even be clear-headed in the future!

We love you bunches and lots!!
We’re thinking of you and keeping you in our prayers.
Love,
Doc (who wrote this out and added his own bits), Mommy, Megan
And Everybodeee!!

Tuesday, June 25, 2013

You Did It!!`

Megan and Brooks ARE coming out for the reunion! Yay! They are driving and will have all their children with them, of course.  They’ll be here almost 2 weeks, I think, driving straight through to get here, and then stopping at Randy/Grandpa Cripe’s home on the way back. Won’t that be just awesome? I appreciate you all coming together to make this happen. They will not be going on their trip they had planned to Palmyra and Niagara Falls and New York City, but that’s what the kids wanted, and that’s what feels right to them. Me too. Heheh They’ll get here about the time that Bonnie and Dennis do - they are staying at a motel, and Haroldsen’s and Ringers will stay here. Ringers are coming July 2nd through the 5th, and Bonnie and Dennis will leave on the afternoon of the 4th.  We have things planned, such as fishing, karaoke, games, food, the Rexburg Splash Park, the parade, fireworks, lots of family history reviewing and video taping, sharing our discs of geneology pictures, and of this reunion and the history we shared, and lots of things like that! (We’ll burn discs for those who want them, for those who can’t make it.)  We will be combining fun, food, patriotism, and family bonding and family history. That will be such a wonderful thing. So get your cameras and video cameras all charged up, get out your sunscreen, hats, sunglasses, fold-up seats, safety glasses for fireworks, your blankets, swimsuits, fishing poles and bait (if you want to do that – we’re totally open to what you want to do!), drinks, glow sticks (to locate kids), radios, guitars, etc., and join us! We love you! xoxoxo